I don’t know about you, but I can feel the tension in the air; it’s like being on the “edge”…people have no patience with one another and can easily become involved in a conflict.
What should we do if we get into a conflict?
1. We must recognise that everyone is right! We have complete autonomy in making our own decisions.
2. We should learn to respect one another, and as parents, we should set a good example. We can’t tell our children not to fight if we’re fighting ourselves.
3. We must recognise that our self-esteem/ego has been harmed and accept responsibility for it by attempting to understand why this occurred and where it harmed us.
4. Recover from the pain – I can recover and heal myself because I’m taking responsibility, I’m courageous, and I won’t hurt others because it will lead to more conflicts. I don’t need the approval of others to validate my worth.
5. We will think about our personal goals and whether they need to change or be abandoned in order to have a better relationship.
6. We will begin a conversation with the goal of understanding the other side, and I will patiently listen to his/her subjective, ask questions, and accept responsibility. I’m no longer operating on autopilot, which is affecting my worth. I’ll let the conflict work itself out and then feel better about it.
7. In a discussion about expectations, the expectation basically states that we are open to respectful relationships. When our expectations are as clear as possible, the likelihood of a conflict decreases. In an autocratic society, only one person has the authority to tell others what to do, but now everyone has the right to express themselves.
When our family relationships are good and your child understands the rules and everyone in the house follows them, he will cooperate.
How do you solve conflicts?
